Q.
I love my groom dearly and want to look into his eyes on the morning of the wedding! (Though this does not mean I plan to spend the night with him.) He wants to invite the entire wedding party to his house for a wedding day breakfast. Can I go, or am I left out in the cold? It seems to me there is some tradition of not seeing the groom on the wedding day.
A.
There is a tradition of the bride and groom not seeing each other on their wedding day, but it stems from the ancient tradition of the bride not showing her face to the groom at all before the wedding! Many couples adhere to the not-seeing-each-other custom because they feel it adds excitement and anticipation to the ceremony itself -- you know, the moment he sees you coming up the aisle. Other couples feel they'll be more relaxed if they see each other before the ceremony -- more and more even take formal pictures pre-ceremony, when everyone's freshly done up -- and claim that 15 minutes alone with their beloved calms them for the main event. It's completely up to you two. If you'll be bummed out that everyone else is enjoying the pre-wedding breakfast, go! And if you really want to lay eyes on your man before the wedding, do!
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michelle_renae
My groom will not see me in my dress and all done up before the ceremony, however I do tend to get extremely nervous before big events. I get butterflies in my stomach so bad I get light headed and almost sick to my stomach. I expect this to occur on our wedding day so I told him that I may need to see him before hand to calm me down. He understands completely. My mother, on the other hand, does not.
PyroWolfe
I don't see an issue with spending the night before your wedding together... or seeing each other beforehand. We'd already planned on staying together the night before (honestly we can't sleep without each other). We were debating on seeing each other beforehand or not- not because of tradition- just because I wanted that "wow" factor of me all "put together" (he's also helping me pick out my dress, so no suprises except the final product). But finally I just decided we'll still have that WOW factor anyway. And if we see each other beforehand then we are able to have a private alone time to soak everything in.
yarkellymarie
The whole idea of bad luck from seeing eachother on the day of wedding is of course superstitious. So if you are not superstitious then see him! I am seeing my fiance for formal pictures before our ceremony. We are also having a first sighting meeting where we will see eachother and be able to have a few moments alone before everything begins.
fayeelizibeth
i always heard that it was bad for the groom to see the bride in her wedding dress before the wedding, not see her at all, so i think if you still have time to get changed and are not in your gown for the breakfast, you would still have that moment of "oh my god she looks so beautiful" moment coming down the aisle.
AmThomps85
I've heard that it's concidered "bad luck" to see eachother from the wedding, but my fiance and I don't buy into superstition (he was born on friday the 13th lol). We plan to see eachother before the ceremony as we don't want to make people wait while we get our formal pictures done. Not to mention we're getting married late in the day and knowing my family they will want to get together for breakfast or something beforehand anyhow.