Q.
With the exception of one girlfriend, all of my close friends are guys. What am I supposed to do about the bridal shower, the bachelorette party and, most importantly, the wedding party? Also, my fiance and I share many of the same friends, with only a few exceptions.
A.
If you're set on a bridal shower, perhaps your mother or another female relative can plan and host the party. (You may have heard that this is a no-no, but these days, it's no longer a faux pas for the bride's mom to throw the shower.) You might also consider a couple shower for you and your fiance -- you can invite all your male pals to that party. For your bachelorette party, why not just go out with your close girlfriend for dinner and drinks? As far as the wedding party goes, there's no rule that says the bride must have all female attendants -- or any females at all, for that matter! You can definitely choose male pals to stand up for you. If you and your groom share friends, decide between yourselves who will stand where. When you really think about it, all the attendants stand for both of you, right? Just make sure all the guys wear matching formalwear. The lesson here: You needn't follow rules that don't apply to you. When necessary, adapt them to suit your situation or just make your own.
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anyeone
I had a co-ed everything (shower, bachelorette party, and wedding party) and it was a hoot. So just do what you want and have fun.
briteyes-8
Two of my "bridesmaids" are men; my fiance has a groomswoman as well. My bachelorette party was wonderful--both my male AND female friends took me out.
cravecase
A few of my close guy friends showed up at my bachelorette party later in the night. They spent the beginning of the night out with the bachelor party (they are friends with my FI as well) and then when we got home from the bar they came over to where we were and had some drinks and such with us. The totally would have come out to the bar with us if they hadn't been on the bachelor party bus...and I would have loved it! It is all about what you want. If you want your bachelorette party to be you and three guys at the bar then make it, its all about you! :)
ldevietro
to the last person who commented that your fiance not only doesnt want your gay cousin on his side or yours, is being selfish. dont marry him!
cello10star
My best friend is male. I would never dream of leaving him out of my bridal party, or my shower or bachelorette party! He is the most fun person I know! The idea that a womans attendants have to be female and a mans have to be male is outdated.