Q.
With the exception of one girlfriend, all of my close friends are guys. What am I supposed to do about the bridal shower, the bachelorette party and, most importantly, the wedding party? Also, my fiance and I share many of the same friends, with only a few exceptions.
A.
If you're set on a bridal shower, perhaps your mother or another female relative can plan and host the party. (You may have heard that this is a no-no, but these days, it's no longer a faux pas for the bride's mom to throw the shower.) You might also consider a couple shower for you and your fiance -- you can invite all your male pals to that party. For your bachelorette party, why not just go out with your close girlfriend for dinner and drinks? As far as the wedding party goes, there's no rule that says the bride must have all female attendants -- or any females at all, for that matter! You can definitely choose male pals to stand up for you. If you and your groom share friends, decide between yourselves who will stand where. When you really think about it, all the attendants stand for both of you, right? Just make sure all the guys wear matching formalwear. The lesson here: You needn't follow rules that don't apply to you. When necessary, adapt them to suit your situation or just make your own.
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cello10star
My best friend is male. I would never dream of leaving him out of my bridal party, or my shower or bachelorette party! He is the most fun person I know! The idea that a womans attendants have to be female and a mans have to be male is outdated.
BridetobeLaura
My fiance and I were in a similar position. We made the easy decision that it mattered that they were there to support us. He has three men and three women on his side. I have four women and one man on my side. They are uneven and they are all great! As for our wedding shower it is being thrown as a couples shower, I have been able to have some input due to be able to collaborate with all sides and four sets of parents. For the bachelor/bachelorette party we are doing a "Chose your Own Adventure theme" that means we'll have a set of overlapping activities some together some separate, and where ever our guests choose to go over the course of the day is up to them. Some may go hit the batting cages with my fiance, some may come get their nails done with me. We'll show up for a hockey game and then maybe hit up a bar or two afterwards. People can pop in at anytime and no matter the sex or their leisure preference they are taken care of and are sure to have fun.
cherrymalibu2003
I totally asked the girlfriend of my best guy friend to be in my wedding instead of him because I thought he would feel funny standing on the girls side. I'm friends with his girlfriend too so I thought it was not a big deal. He was happy for me anyways. Well I'm an idiot. I find out yesterday, four months before my wedding, that I hurt him by not at least asking him first. So I feel like the worst friend in the whole world! I talked to my FI last night and we are asking him to stand on my side and I dont give a darn if the numbers are off! Since my FI's bestman is standing with him at the alter before the ceremony begins, my MOH would technically walk down the aisle alone. Well, now it's going to be my Matron of Honor and my Man of Honor walking down the aisle before me and they will both stand next to me. I'm happy it worked out, but the moral of the story is....these people are going to be here after you get married. If they are your friend, whether they are the opposite sex, aliens or animals, do what makes you happy! You have to live with it the rest of your life! :) I feel bad I didn't do it sooner, but no hard feelings
lianarae
I am having 1 male bridesmaid, or bridesman :) , along with my 2 bridesmaids. He and I have been close friends longer than anyone else and it would just be wrong to leave him out of the wedding party. He is wearing the same suits as the groomsmen but with a vest matching the girl's dresses instead of a tie. I was nervous that this wouldn't go over too well, but after some research I found it's actually not that uncommon, and everyone I've mentioned it to seems to love the idea.
shainalayla
My cousin and I are very close, closer to best friends than family... He's gay and my fiance doesn't want him as a groomsman but doesn't feel comfortable having him as one of my 'bridesmaids' either. I really want my cousin to have an important part in my wedding so what can I do?