The man I'm marrying has a son who will be nine years old when we get married. I want to give him something during the wedding ceremony to show that I am not just marrying his father, but joining his family too! I have no idea what to get him. Can you help?
How about a really nice watch? Maybe one of those cool pocket watches hidden in a gold or silver case. The symbolism of time -- that you will love and support your new son for the rest of your life -- is appropriate and a watch is something people use every day, so he'll always remember it was from you. You can even have the back engraved with the date or a personal message. It's wonderful that you've thought to include your fiance's son in your ceremony; you can count on the fact that he'll always remember your loving gesture.