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Wedding Ceremony Questions

If you are already in the throws of wedding planning, it probably does not surprise you that wedding ceremonies can have a lot of problems that you need to deal with. Fortunately, TheKnot.com has all of the wedding expertise to answer even your toughest wedding ceremony questions. We will fill you in on alternatives to unity candles, how to decorate for a church wedding, and whether or not you should get a gift for your ceremony officiant. We also have advice for child attendants, how a wedding recessional works, and the best way to plan a nondenominational wedding. We have answers to questions like, "How can we honor a deceased loved one at our wedding ceremony?" and "Who should walk me down the aisle?" Another popular wedding ceremony question we answer is, "How should an uneven wedding party walk down the aisle?" Plus, get tips on the receiving line, such as whether or not to include stepparents and whether or not a receiving line is really necessary. We will even let you know fun ways to include your pets in your wedding ceremony. Have a question you don't see answered? Submit it to Carley and you just might see the answer show up on our site!

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Wedding Ceremony: When Do You Light the Unity Candle?

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How does the unity candle work? When is it lit? Can the two sets of parents light it, and then the bride and groom use it to light theirs?

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The unity candle is lit by the bride and groom from two separate family candles, representing the union of your families and the fact that you and your fiance are creating a family of your own. Often your mothers light the family candles, and then you two each hold your family's candle to light the unity candle together (it may be a larger candle, or a different color, and it's placed in the center, with the family candles off to your respective families' sides). But your dads can be in on it, too -- a nice option, because it mirrors the commitment you two are making and reminds everyone present of your parents' commitments. Usually the unity candle is lit directly after you exchange vows.

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