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Wedding Ceremony Questions

If you are already in the throws of wedding planning, it probably does not surprise you that wedding ceremonies can have a lot of problems that you need to deal with. Fortunately, TheKnot.com has all of the wedding expertise to answer even your toughest wedding ceremony questions. We will fill you in on alternatives to unity candles, how to decorate for a church wedding, and whether or not you should get a gift for your ceremony officiant. We also have advice for child attendants, how a wedding recessional works, and the best way to plan a nondenominational wedding. We have answers to questions like, "How can we honor a deceased loved one at our wedding ceremony?" and "Who should walk me down the aisle?" Another popular wedding ceremony question we answer is, "How should an uneven wedding party walk down the aisle?" Plus, get tips on the receiving line, such as whether or not to include stepparents and whether or not a receiving line is really necessary. We will even let you know fun ways to include your pets in your wedding ceremony. Have a question you don't see answered? Submit it to Carley and you just might see the answer show up on our site!

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Wedding Ceremony: Can We Preview Our Wedding Readings?

Q.

We're having a friend do a wedding reading during our wedding ceremony. He says he has something really nice picked out and wants to surprise us. We're okay with him selecting something, but we'd like to read it first. Is it rude for us to ask? We don't want to come across as making a "You'll read what we tell you to read!" demand.

A.

It's a nice gesture that your friend went out of his way to find something special to read. However, it's well within your right to get an idea of what to expect. Tell him that you're working out the specifics of the ceremony -- how long it will run and who's reciting what -- and ask if he can give a loose overview of what he'll be saying. If you're concerned that he may recite something totally inappropriate (does he have a reputation for drunken, obscenity-filled monologues?), request that he speak with your officiant about the reading prior to the ceremony. Tell him that you don't want to ruin his surprise, but add something like, "Reverend Smith likes to have control over his ceremonies." If the material is not wedding-perfect, your officiant will take care of it.

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