My fiance claims the groom doesn't have to attend the wedding shower. I disagree (and so does my mom). I thought the idea was that guests were showering us with bridal shower gifts, so we should both be there to open them. Can you clarify?
Usually grooms don't attend showers -- can you imagine what it would be like if you had to attend the bachelor party? Traditionally, a "bridal" shower is for the bride and her close female relatives and friends (and often female relatives on the groom's side, too). That said, you're absolutely right that those gifts are for both of you! While many women still love the "girls only" aspect of the shower (tea, pink stuff, lace, girl talk), it's no longer true that the wife runs the home while her husband brings home the bacon.
You may be a perfect candidate for a couple shower -- a party for both of you with a co-ed guest list! Couple showers are becoming more and more popular among today's equality-minded couples. If you want a traditional bridal shower but would like the groom to show up though, nothing says he can't. Another option is to have your guy just make an appearance at gift-time to thank all the gals himself. Just be sure your sweetie's comfortable with his cameo!
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