Your Own Story
Before delving into the wide world of possible readings, look to your own backgrounds and relationship first. Remember the time your fiance gave you a Pablo Neruda
book for your birthday? Or did you meet in English class and read Pride and Prejudice
together? Or maybe a Stevie Wonder song was playing in the restaurant when he proposed? Do some reminiscing -- the perfect passage might be right in front of you.
Scripture and Cultural Texts
Feel free to use ethnic or cultural readings that don't necessarily reflect your backgrounds -- what's important is that the words resonate with you. Some places to start: the Dhammapada
(Buddhist), the Song of Songs (Jewish), the Bible (Christian) and the I Ching
(Chinese). Just make sure to explain the reading's source in the introduction or in your ceremony programs. And keep in mind that if you're having a religious ceremony, there may be certain requirements about or restrictions on what can be read.
Poems were practically made for wedding ceremonies, from Shakespeare's love sonnets
and Elizabeth Barrett Browning
's romantic verses to the works of more modern scribes like E.E. Cummings
, Maya Angelou
, Walt Whitman
, Nikki Giovanni
and William Butler Yeats
. If you can't decide between several short poems, consider having multiple readers recite them one after the other. Each person can introduce the next.
Browse books and short stories to find passages that remind you of love and your marriage. Kahlil Gibran's The Prophet
is popular for weddings, as are classics by Jane Austen and Charlotte and Emily Bronte. But think beyond the obvious and consider modern authors you love. Maybe one of Jonathan Safran Foer's novels spoke to you, a passage written by Nicole Krauss really stuck with you, or you loved one of David Sedaris's funny yet touching essays.
Your favorite storybooks from childhood can actually be quite profound, given their audience. Excerpts from books by Dr. Seuss, Shel Silverstein, Maurice Sendak, Roald Dahl and other classic authors might surprise you with how romantic they can be. One idea we love: Have your seven-year-old cousin read the passage and there won't be a dry eye in the room.
Love letters penned by historical figures (like James Joyce's to his wife, Nora, or Simone de Beauvoir's to Jean-Paul Sartre, for example) can be especially moving. If you'll have two or more readings, ask one person to read from a love letter, and another reader to handle the response letter. And don't forget about your own ”love letters.” Search your email inbox for messages from when you first met or were falling in love. You may find sweet tidbits of old correspondence that chronicle your falling in love from a totally personal and unique angle.
Your Favorite Movies
If historical literature or old-world poetry just isn't your style, try drawing from romantic movie quotes: Billy Crystal's speech at the end of When Harry Met Sally
, Tom Hanks's radio call from Sleepless in Seattle
, Leonardo DiCaprio's conversations with Kate Winslet in Titanic
and the first-person narration from The Notebook
come to mind. Think beyond your typical romantic movies too. If you have a special, nontraditional film you both love -- maybe you always watch it together when one of you is sick -- check it for quotes too.
If you're more likely to have a list of favorite tunes than favorite sonnets, check your iPod for songs with romantic, readable lyrics. Some of our favorites? The Beatles' "In My Life," The Beach Boys' "God Only Knows," Van Morrison's "Someone Like You" and Bob Dylan's "Make You Feel My Love."
If you're looking for a way to honor a deceased or absent relative, reading from that person's favorite poems, books or passage of scripture is appropriate. Another touching option? Choosing excerpts from a meaningful book or letter written during their life. Maybe your grandmother kept a diary about her marriage and family life, or your favorite aunt read The Steadfast Tin Soldier
to you when you were a kid.
-- Special thanks to Rev. Gary Rozman and Rabbi David Gruber
Wedding Ceremony + Wedding Vow Ideas