There is no actual exchange of vows in a traditional Jewish ceremony; the covenant is said to be implicit in the ritual. Ceremony structure varies within the Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform synagogues, and also among individual rabbis. The marriage vow is customarily sealed when the groom places a ring on his bride's finger and says:
"Behold, you are consecrated to me with this ring according to the laws of Moses and Israel."
However, today many Jewish couples opt for double-ring ceremonies, so the bride may also recite the traditional ring words, or a modified version. The traditional Seven Blessings, or Sheva B'rachot, are also an integral part of Jewish ceremonies; often relatives and friends of the couple's choosing recites them. And because many Jewish couples today do want to exchange spoken vows, they are now included in many Reform and Conservative ceremonies.
"Do you, ______, take ______ to be your wife/husband, promising to cherish and protect her/him, whether in good fortune or in adversity, and to seek together with her/him a life hallowed by the faith of Israel?"
"Do you, ______, take ______ to be your lawfully wedded wife/husband, to love, to honor, and to cherish?"
Other Jewish vows
"With this ring, you are made holy to me, for I love you as my soul. You are now my wife.
"With this ring, you are made holy to me, for I love you as my soul. You are now my
From Rabbi Rosalin Mandelberg
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