Q&A: Wedding Cake: Must We Have His and Hers?

Q.

Do you have to have a groom's cake and a bride's cake?

A.

No, you don't have to. The bride's cake is the one we generally refer to as the wedding cake -- the one you cut and feed each other. While this cake is traditionally lighter (yellow or white cake) with light-colored frosting (although it can be made of anything you want these days!), the groom's cake is traditionally a darker, heavier cake. Many couples who do have a groom's cake make it a special "theme" cake for the groom, maybe shaped like something that reflects his job or a hobby.


As an aside, the tradition behind groom's cakes custom is this: Slices are sent home with guests in little slice boxes (they can even be your favor), and single women are supposed to sleep with the slice under their pillow that night (ick -- nice hair in the morning, huh?). Legend has it that they will dream of their future husband.

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slightlyslapdash
I'm personally torn between serving the grooms cake at the rehearsal dinner or the wedding...

tarafire
That is soooo funny that the groom's cake is to be placed under the single ladie's pillow! Anyway, my advice is YES have a groom's cake, that way the main wedding cake doesn't have to be huge to feed everyone a peice. Keep it simple, and you can have two different kinds. It can please everyone really.