Q.
If a couple decides to wed in a distant location, who pays for lodging? The guests?
A.
Yes. Whether the wedding is in the couple's hometown or far away, they are not expected to pay for guests' lodging. What they can do is get a group rate on a block of rooms at a convenient hotel. That way guests will get a discount rate, but they are still responsible for paying their own way.
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yakwithlou
Never make a guest pay for dinner or drinks! People should do what they can afford and if that means no booze so be it. Where did people come up with the idea that anyone shoud be charged?
ahilleong
We have a lot of interstate guests so we decided to rent a lodge for everyone to stay at for the two nights surrouding the wedding free of charge. Now one of the groomsmen wants us to arrange a hotel for guests staying outside those two nights! And transport. Guess we just aren't giving them enough...
BigDay42410
My Fiance's sister is getting married during a cruise to the Bahamas this fall (six months before our wedding). They are paying for themselves, her parents and her fiance's parents which is enough of an expense I think but basically she did a lot of research and got the best deal and sent the info to everyone else (her siblings and other family and friends) . Even though this trip is costing my Fiance and I almost $2000, we are getting an 8 day cruise out of the deal and it is his sister after all. Some other family members made her feel a little guilty and selfish for chossing an expensive destination wedding but I told her it's their day and if they wanted to get married on the moon we would make the effort and whoever couldn't make it shouldn't make her feel bad about it.
mewaldroop89
never make the guests pay their own meal... it will offend more than enough people to even be worth the savings. definitely go with SHAWNDIKAY on that one
shawndikay
If by "dutch" rehearsal, you mean each guest pays their own meal...I don't think it's a good idea. They are coming to be part of your's and your fiance's day and chances are they've already payed for their own dresses/tuxes/accessories, etc. If your trying to go for a cheaper route, try bbq-ing at a local park where it's more than likely free and have hot dog's and hamburgers, it'll be a lot cheaper than going to a sit down restaurant. My fiance and I are having a bbq at my parent's house and we're having his parents friends cater for us...it's way cheaper. The only problem with doing it at my parents house vs a park is it's harder to kick people out of your own house than to just say "Okay, I'm leaving! See you tomorrow!" But if its the money factor, I'm thinking bbq-ing at a park would be very beneficial for you guys. Think macaroni salads, hamburgers, hot dogs, and chips...very inexpensive...and fun!