Wedding Planning: Wedding Dates to Avoid in 2009 and 2010

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So you've just said "yes" -- and now the calendar is wide open! Kind of. Here are some dates that you might consider wedding "blackout" dates. Think twice before scheduling your wedding at these times.

Holiday Weekends

Holiday weekend weddings have pros and cons. You've got an extra day for the festivities (and recovery!); plus, it's easier to host a Sunday wedding, which is often less expensive than a Saturday wedding would be. However, costs of travel and hotels may be higher. Also, having a holiday wedding might adversely affect your guest list. Some families have standing holiday weekend plans or traditions that they'd prefer not to have disrupted.

Martin Luther King Jr. Day (always a Monday)
January 19, 2009
January 18, 2010

President's Day (always a Monday)
February 16, 2009
February 15, 2010

Memorial Day (always a Monday)
May 25, 2009
May 31, 2010

Independence Day
Saturday, July 4, 2009
Sunday, July 4, 2010

Labor Day (always a Monday)
September 7, 2009
September 6, 2010

Columbus Day (always a Monday)
October 12, 2009
October 11, 2010

Thanksgiving (always a Thursday)
November 26, 2009
November 25, 2010

New Year's Eve
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Friday, December 31, 2010

Religious and Cultural Holidays

Be mindful of religious and cultural holidays (your own and those of your guests) when planning your wedding. There may even be restrictions at your house of worship as to whether you're allowed to marry at these times.

Palm Sunday
April 5, 2009
March 28, 2010

Easter Sunday
April 12, 2009
April 4, 2010

Passover (begins at sunset the night before)
Thursday, April 9, 2009
Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Tisha B’Av (begins at sunset the night before)
Thursday, July 30, 2009
Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Rosh Hashanah
In 2009: begins at sunset on Friday, September 18, and lasts until nightfall on Sunday, September 20
In 2010: begins at sunset on Wednesday, September 8, and last until nightfall on Friday, September 10

Yom Kippur (begins at sunset the night before)
Monday, September 28, 2009
Saturday, September 18, 2010

Hanukkah (begins at sunset the night before)
Saturday, December 12, 2009
Thursday, December 2, 2010

Christmas
Friday, December 25, 2009
Saturday, December 25, 2010

Kwanzaa
Begins Saturday, December 26, 2009 through Friday, January 1, 2010
Begins Sunday, December 26, 2009 through Saturday, January 1, 2011

Costly Holidays

If you're looking to marry around Valentine's Day, be wary of your floral bill, especially if you've got your heart set on red roses -- they're likely to be more costly than at any other time of the year. Likewise, reception sites often charge a higher fee for a New Year's Eve wedding.

Notable Holidays

April Fool's Day
If you and your fiance are jokesters at heart, this could be the perfect wedding day for you. If not, choose another day.
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Thursday, April 1, 2010

Mother's Day (always a Sunday)
Make sure your mom is okay with sharing this weekend with your wedding -- but it could be the perfect opportunity to honor her. If you do choose it, make a toast to all the mothers in the room at your postwedding brunch.
May 10, 2009
May 9, 2010

Father's Day (always a Sunday)
Ditto for Dad.
June 21, 2009
June 20, 2010

Halloween
Avoid it if you're terrified that someone might actually show up in costume. (If you love the idea of getting married on this holiday, get our top Halloween wedding ideas!)
Saturday, October 31, 2009
Sunday, October 31, 2010

Days of Remembrance

Historically significant days may cause a conflict of interest for some guests.
September 11: It falls on a Friday in 2009 and a Saturday in 2010.
December 7, Pearl Harbor Remembrance Day: In 2009, it's on a Monday, and falls on a Tuesday in 2010.

Super Bowl
If you don't live in Florida and are marrying on the Saturday rather than the Sunday of Super Bowl weekend, then the big game shouldn't affect your wedding too much -- unless you and your husband are diehard pigskin fans and can't bear to miss the big game instead of leaving on your honeymoon. If in doubt, steer clear of these dates:
Sunday, February 1, 2009, Tampa, FL
Sunday, February 7, 2010, Miami, FL

Final Four/March Madness
Everyone loves the excitement of college b-ball (and betting on it!). Keep your sports fans at bay by avoiding these dates:
Saturday, April 4, 2009, and Monday, April 6, 2009, Detroit, MI
Saturday, April 3, 2010, and Monday, April 5, 2010, Indianapolis, IN

Quirky Dates
03/06/09 falls on a Friday
09/09/09 falls on a Wednesday
10/10/10 falls on a Sunday

Other Dates to Avoid

College reunions and/or homecoming, big conventions in your city (call your local chamber of commerce), and any annual charity events that involve your family or close friends.

-- Kathleen Murray

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tinkerjenn
We've decided on 1/1/11 on the beach in Ft. Lauderdale :) So far most of our guests are excited to have an excuse to be on a warm beach in the middle of winter

mizpakmon
My wedding is Dec 31 in our hometown since almost everyone lives there. it is in the morning instead of at night so we do not interupt the plans of our friends and family. Plus we get to hop on a plan and celebrate the new year in Vegas.

DezirayM
We're getting married on 7/4/10 and fortunately, are lucky enough that everyone on the guest list so far is very excited to participate in a holiday wedding. To make it as convenient as possible for everyone involved, we're having it in our hometown instead of our new city of residence, and the ceremony & reception are at the same location. We figured it'd be much less expensive on all sides if we minimized travel to just us and a few out of town guests who would have to travel anyway, instead of all our friends and family. I don't think you should have to avoid holiday weddings, just be conscientious about your plans.

msklikky
my FH's parents (both deceased) were married on 10/10; so we want 10/10/10, but it's been booked for months at the 3 places we chose for a reception. sooo, we are doing the saturday 10/9/10.

annanddavidunited
As a response Judith: Yes, sadly. Friends of mine, Seven Day Adventists, couldn't marry on a Saturday so they picked Sunday. Unfortunately, their rude family began leaving before the cake was cut! She really regrets it now, not having it on a Sunday, but just the way she went about it... I'd move it up as much as you can if you're having it on a Sunday. Maybe have it at 1 or 2, maybe 3. Late enough for people to be out of church, early enough they have time to party before they feel they need to hit the road... But it is a weird thing. Good luck. I hope your guests aren't like her family (we, her friends, wanted to stay, but she felt compelled to rush things!)