Q.
Is the bride expected to pay for the flower girl and ring bearer's attire?
A.
Just as for the adult members of your wedding party, agreeing to be in the wedding generally also means agreeing to buy an outfit. Usually, child attendants' parents pay for their clothes, but you might choose to purchase a flower girl's dress or ring bearer's suit as a gift. Decide how you're going to handle it, then go ahead and bring this up at the same time you ask the parents' permission for the tykes to be in the wedding. That way, there's no chance of a misunderstanding.
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Katsy1988
i have had to pay for all of my dresses for the weddings i was in as bridesmaid, maid of honor junior brides maid, last minuet candle lighter girl thing and flower girl. im having my girls pick the dress they want to wear and they are buying it their selves. my flower girl is having her dress made for her because she is my neice and my mom loves to sew but im not paying for it. i have to pay for the whole wedding. being an attendant you should buy your own dress. when you graduate high school they dont give you a robe to wear, you have to buy it. same thing here.
meygan1228
I've NEVER heard of the bride paying for her attendent's dresses nor have I heard of the groom paying for his attendent's tuxedos. I was a flower girl in 2 weddings, a bridesmaid in another, a maid of honor in the last, and I am not getting married. My mom paid for my 2 flower girl dresses and I paid for my other 2 dresses and I'm sure not paying for my attendent's dresses (except one flower girl but that's because she's my daughter). Being asked to be in a wedding is an honor and it comes with many responsibilities. You dont get to sit back and coast through the event. If you are offended by having to purchase your own dress, decline the offer and then spend the money anyways on a new outfit to wear to attend the wedding. And if you can't afford your child's tux so he can be the ringbearer, tell the couple you prefer he sit this one out.
yolo209
If the price is low enough, like the flower girl dresses of ring bearer outfits you might find online, I'd say possibly the parent's pay for them. Then again as a gift, bride and groom may offer to pay for it as a gesture of gratitude.
sudslover
Both my boys have been a ring bearer in a family member's wedding. There were both required to wear a tux and when you have young children, a mortgage and mom is staying home with the children, there is not an abundance of money. It was very hard for us to pull duty for these weddings. Honestly, it bothered me that the groom's tux was no cost because of the other tux's' rentals, and we had to pay for a four year old's tux. Very frustrating.
welshpixie322
My fiance's niece is our flower girl and his sister-in-law is the best bargain shopper I know. I described to her what I wanted the FG to wear, something whimsical and what she found is PERFECT!!!! And only $15. I plan on getting my Future Sister in Law something very nice as a gift because of how much she helped me. :)