Q.
Help! I've been getting strange looks from my friends after telling them I want to have six flower girls in our wedding. Instead of having my four sisters as bridesmaids, I thought I'd honor them by having their children in the wedding. Is that terrible? I haven't asked them yet for fear of being shot down. What do I do?
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Here's what you do. Tell your friends that in Victorian England, having child attendants was all the rage! Yours is not a bizarre idea. The only problem may be with your four sisters: While they'll no doubt be touched that you want to include their children in your wedding, they may not get why you're not asking them to be bridesmaids. Keep in mind that you can have your sisters as bridesmaids and their kids as flower girls. In fact, it would be completely amazing to have each one walk down the aisle holding her mom's hand! If your sisters don't have a problem with not being in the wedding and you would rather it just be the little girls, then that's just fine too.
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annieblarson
I am having 4 flower girls. 10,8,6,1 all of my nieces. I couldn't imagine picking just one of them and they are all super well behaved adorable girls. My ten year old niece is going to carry the one year old and hand her of to her mom at the end of the aisle. The 6 and 8 year olds are going to carry pomanders. When I was 5 my aunt got married and choose my two cousin who also happened to be five to be the flower girl and ringbearor. I still remember my feelings were hurt wondering why she hadn't chosen me.
Jane Domian
It sounds like a cute idea - but I'm glad I don't have that many children in mine. I only have my 6-year-old niece who is actually a little afraid of walking down the aisle by herself - so she is going to walk down the aisle holding hands with her mom, my MOH. They will both carry bouquets, rather than the flower girl having to drop rose petals.
cwilliams01sc
That's a sweet suggestion to ask the sisters and their children to be in the wedding, but she needs to consider the expense for having to buy bridesmaids dresses and flower girl dresses. Plus, if you have 6 flower girls plus four sisters, that's already 10 people and not to mention the groomsmen. Sounds like a zoo to me.
jaime06
I am having 2 flowergirls, a 3 1/2 year old, and a 2 1/2 year old, and an 8 year old Junior Bridesmaid. Plus 3 little ring bearers. I feel blessed to have so many little ones that I absoleutly love and they are excited to be included. I say it's your wedding, do what you want.
ksosolik
My brother and sister in law had my cousin's Triplets as flowergirls in their wedding and it was adorable. There were no problems having them at all. I plan on having them as 'train attendents' in my wedding... I feel if you have an idea and you can make it work.. do it. It's your wedding, who makes these rules anyway. The idea of holding their mom's hands is cute, to incorporate everyone.