Q.
I'd like to have my sister as my MOH and my daughter as my flower girl. My fiance, however, doesn't want a ring bearer. Would it be all right to have a flower girl without a ring bearer, or does she have to have a partner?
A.
You don't need a little girl and a little boy in your wedding. Just having a flower girl is fine. Basically, you should only include the children who are important and close to you -- obviously, your daughter falls into this category -- without worrying about having to match little boys and girls.
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Becca Bear
I have been to a few weddings with no flower girl, just a ring bearer, so I don't know why the other way around would be a big issue. We are going to have both. We lucked out having the cutest siblings. His little brother is 4 and my sister is 2. Our ring bearer has been one before, so he is going to help our flower girl down the isle.
InfamousQBert
@shevin22: i don't see anything wrong with asking your boss or other friends about the kids if you really want them. my mother used her niece and goddaughter who were 3 & barely 2 at the time. she said the 3 year old was fine, but the 2 year old was a nightmare. she ended up being taken out by her grandmother and tearing up her basket during the ceremony just to keep her quiet. it's just too hard for REALLY little kids to do what you want. so, if you really want a flower girl AND you really want a nice wedding, it makes a lot more sense to ask older kids who aren't as quite close.
tweivoda1
Having only a flower girl is fine. When I married my first husband we had his niece and my cousin do the honors of both as we don't have any little boys between us. Now that I'm getting re-married there are no little girls in the picture so we have decided to have just a ring bearer who will be my nephew....no one ever said you had to have both and that they had to be a boy and a girl.
donishaa
Originally there were going to be two flower girls, a ring bearer and a bell girl that would signal my arrival. A little cheasy but I needed to figure out a way to get both my nieces and my fiance's niece and nephew in the wedding. Unfortunately we found out his niece and nephew are unavailable to attend so there will be our two girls only! I am thinking of having my niece carry the flowers and the other carry the ring. Any thoughts on my non-traditional way of handling this...
stahlop
We are only having a flower girl as well as we have no little boys in our family that we are close to. My flower girl will be 9 by the time of the wedding, but I think it will be alright.