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Attendants: Sibling Sound-Off

Whether or not to include his sister or your brothers in each other's bridal party can get tricky. Here, Knotties share their thoughts on the topic.

Photo: Nina Sutherland Photography

For some, it's a no-brainer when it comes to including your fiance's sibs in their bridal party. For others, it can be a sore subject. We polled Knotties to get their opinions. Here's what they had to say.

"I think it all depends on how close you are to your fiance's siblings. My future sister-in-law is 13 years older than me, has three children, and I didn't really meet her until after I was engaged. I had no reservations about selecting my sister, best friend, and two college girl friends as my bridesmaids. These ladies are supposed to be the ones that you've turned to in the past for love and support. If your future sister-in-law fits that bill, then great! But don't feel pressured to have someone as a bridesmaid that you're not close to."
-- CarleyandWes

"It's up to both of you. But whomever the sibling belongs to has more pull. My fiance has a brother he's not close to and never communicates with unless he runs into him at a family gig. He's not including him. One can't assume that just because it's a sibling that they're close to the bride or groom. My fiance is including my brother-in-law on his side because we're both close to him."
-- smacperez

"I wasn't particularly close to my fiance's sister, but I decided to include her in the wedding party anyway. It has actually helped us interact more and become closer. I thought it was a nice gesture, and I don't regret it."
-- everam01

"For our wedding, my two younger sisters are going to stand up for me, and my fiance's brother and old family friend are going to stand up for him. It's a nice, even number (yes, I have OCD), and they're all like family. I'll never look at my wedding photos and wonder what happened to a member of our wedding party. As family, they'll always be around, which can't be said about some of the closest friends I've had."
-- MinM

"It doesn't matter how close you are to them personally. If your fiance wants them in the wedding, they should be in the wedding, end of story. I would've had a major issue if my husband didn't want my brother in the wedding."
-- amy052006

"Simply stated, no. The bride and groom usually want to have people in their wedding party who love and support their relationship. If your fiance's siblings are a part of that group of people, then they should definitely be included. But by no means should you feel obligated to include your fiance's siblings."
-- lovebirds08

"I don't think you have to, but I think it's a nice gesture, especially if your fiance is close to his siblings. My fiance is close to his sister, and she and I are friends. I asked her to be a bridesmaid. But my fiance isn't very close to his brother at all. They hardly speak, so he probably won't ask his brother."
-- Leah&Christian09

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