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wedding tasks that can wait

There are a few things you don't need to be in such a hurry to do. Here are five things you don't have to feel guilty about putting off.

1. Getting a marriage license. Most states don't require more than a 24-hour waiting period for a marriage license to be valid, so there's no rush in getting one. A week or two before the ceremony is plenty of time.

2. Renting the formalwear. Unlike the bride and maids, groomsmen, ushers, and even the groom can take a bit more time when it comes to acquiring their duds. Don't worry about renting or buying formalwear until about three months before the ceremony -- and the groomsmen usually don't have to pick up the suits or tuxes until the week of.

3. Ordering your wedding bands. You want to make sure you have enough time to get wedding bands sized in case they don't fit when they arrive, but you don't need to worry about ordering the rings until four to five months before your wedding.

4. Appointing all the attendants. While you can decide your wedding party earlier in the planning process, attendants who are less involved in the prewedding prep don't need to be chosen for a while. You can wait until a week or two before the wedding day to appoint ushers and other ceremony helpers (as long as their task won't take a lot of prep).

5. Finalizing seating chart. Yes, you really can wait until just a few weeks before your wedding to nail down your seating chart and get it to the reception site manager. So if you're already stressed about who should sit next to your boss, don't worry; you've got time to decide.

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Just Engaged: Your First Wedding Planning To-Dos

You said yes -- what now? Read on for the basics for planning a wedding.

Photo: Veer

Once the initial shock of being engaged wears off (and you take a second to peel your eyes away from that sparkly ring on your finger!), you'll need to make a lot of decisions. Don't get overwhelmed -- here are the first nine things you need to do after you get engaged.

Set a Timetable

The first thing to consider is how long your engagement will be. This will depend on a couple of factors, such as your ideal wedding date and how much time you'll need to prepare. A typical engagement lasts anywhere from six months to a year and a half or more. If you got engaged during the holidays but always wanted a summer wedding, make sure you've got enough time to plan without making yourselves wedding-crazy, and keep in mind that many of the best vendors and reception sites book a year or more in advance.

Envision the Style

Your wedding style will be reflected first and foremost in the location, whether it's a luxe ballroom or an intimate backyard reception. Discuss with your fiance where your wedding will take place (in one of your hometowns or in the city where you currently live, for example), and then start scouting sites that can accommodate your wedding style. Use theknot.com/local to find reception venues in your area.

Set Your Budget

In the end, dollars, not dreams, are a main determining factor for the size and style of your wedding. So, what affects the price tag?

  • Formality: In general, the more formal the reception, the more expensive, considering you'll have to match the site, food, and decor to the overall upscale tone.
  • Date and time: Saturdays, summer months, and evenings tend to be the most costly times to have a reception.
  • Location: In many cases, a wedding in a major metropolitan area is simply more expensive than in a smaller town.

For interactive budgeting help, use our online wedding budget tool.

Determine a Date

Choosing a wedding date can be tougher than you'd think. There are a few things to consider: How much time will you need to prepare for your wedding? Do any loved ones having a conflicting graduation, vacation, or pregnancy due date? If you have your heart set on a particular place, caterer, band, or photographer, the availability of these crucial vendors may also play a large part in your decision. Try to avoid dates of big conventions or other events that draw large crowds, since that might make it harder for out-of-town guests to get hotel rooms. Find out more wedding dates to avoid here.

Once you've picked the date, start your wedding checklist for a to-do list of what to do when.

Announce Your Engagement

Call your local newspaper, your alumni magazine, and anywhere else you want your engagement announcement to appear. Find out the name of the appropriate editor or department and ask for the writer's guidelines or a standardized form, if available. Also, ask if there's a fee for publication. Here's what you need to know if you want to have an engagement photo session, plus a list of contacts for major newspapers.

You can also broadcast the news with a free wedding website.

Choose Your Attendants

It's time to honor your closest friends and family members by picking your wedding parties. Remember, the earlier you ask, the sooner you can enlist their help. (Here's help if you're not sure who to choose.) Keep in mind that your wedding party is agreeing to spend their hard-earned money and donate their precious time -- be considerate and kind by informing everyone about all your plans, showing them a good time, and making sure they know how much you appreciate them.

Make a Guest List

As you begin to build your guest list, you'll need to consider a number of factors. If you have a particular ceremony or reception site in mind, for instance, you're going to be limited by how many people it can accommodate (you can't squeeze 300 people into a lighthouse). Would you rather have one-on-one time with each guest or to throw a once-in-a-lifetime party for all your friends and family? If Mom and Dad are adamant about inviting throngs of friends and family, you'll have to hear them out -- especially if they're footing a major part of the bill. Obviously, the more relatives you must invite, the larger your list will be. And more guests means a bigger bill, as catering costs are generally calculated on a per-head basis. So, in addition to location, your budget will have a big influence on the size of your guest list.

Create and manage your online wedding guest list.

Consider a Consultant

If you're a super-busy couple, hire a full-time wedding consultant to help you prepare your entire event, from the announcement to the honeymoon. You can also hire a part-time consultant to devise a wedding blueprint -- including budget, schedule, and lists of good vendor and site choices -- before you launch solo into the preparations. Another option is a day-of coordinator (which we definitely recommend), who will make sure everything goes as planned on your wedding day.

Find a consultant in your area with our local wedding vendor search.

Start Gown Shopping

It's never too early to begin thinking about your wedding dress. Start by figuring out which style will look best on you. How? Learn the lingo before stepping foot in a dress salon. Read up on silhouettes, necklines, trains, and hues that might flatter you. Season will also affect your choice. Getting married in the sweltering summer? Go with lightweight fabrics such as chiffon, linen, or organza. Having a winter wedding? Brocade, faux fur, and velvet fabrics will keep you warm. Satin, shantung, silk, and tulle are perfect year-round.

Start your search now -- view 1,000s of wedding dress photos.

-- The Knot

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Lilly32
We got engaged on March 7th 2009, following weekend we met with our local priest, set the date and found my dress on April 10th. It's never too early to find what your looking for, especially your wedding dress. This was especially interesting for me, since I am petite in stature with at vavavavoom body type and most of the dress were made for an adelecent boy!!! My advise girls is have a plan, get things done ahead of time, be aware of the fine print and most important, have a blast!! I am more than half way there and the more I have checked off my list, the more I can enjoy this once in a lifetime experience.

Belangelino
My fiance and I are going to have our engagement party next month and our wedding date is sept 5, 2010. I've tried some gowns and I am really love for one. You know the feelings " This is the ONE'? So, my question for the knotties is : Is it to early to buy it?

researchgirl
I became engaged on September 12 and my wedding date is May 23, 2010. We decided to have a local wedding. Since we live in NW Michigan, the outdoors is a perfect backdrop to our ceremony. Since it is an early spring wedding (if were lucky... we still get frost in June) I am trying to decide if potted plants would be a good idea. It will be a wooded setting and I don't want to take away from the natural beauty of the woods. I also need some ideas of how to create a beautiful wedding while still letting nature shine through (researchgirl@directv.net).

patreesha
My fiance and i got engaged September 7th! Before our engagement i had thoughts of marriage, but never looked into the depth of marriage. Since our engagemant i have become extremely excited and eagar to plan, but at times find it almost overwhelming with all the things on the list you have to do!! If anyone can give me any good tips, or advice on planning or even how to pinch and save a penny that would be fabulous!! You can e-mail me booka_03@yahoo.com Thank you!

MadameCEO75
My fiance and I got engaged September 2nd so everything is brand new and I am sooooooooooo excited! We are planing to get married in 2011- when we are both graduated from our university and in our careers- but it is never too late to plan, right? Anyone have any wise advice for ways to save money? Let me know! Thanks, ladies! madameceo75@live.com