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What exactly are the wedding responsibilities of the maid of honor?
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Here's what the MOH is primarily responsible for:
Planning one or more showers for the bride, with the help of the other bridesmaids and/or the bride's mother, sisters, etc.Helping the bride choose her dress and shopping for bridesmaid dresses.Making sure the bridesmaids all go for their dress fittings and get everything they need for the big day.Lending an ear when the bride wants to/needs to vent, whether it be about her mother-in-law to-be or the fact that the napkins don't exactly match the tablecloths.Generally keeping the bride sane during wedding planning.Making sure the bridesmaids know where they need to be and at what time on the big day.At the ceremony, standing next to the bride while she exchanges vows and holding her bouquet during the ring part of things.The MOH may also hold onto the groom's wedding band for the bride (although the best man has traditionally taken care of both bands).She may stand in the receiving line.Bustling the bride's train for the party.At the reception, she's often announced along with the best man.She may dance with the best man during or after the couple's first dance.Generally keeping the bride sane during the wedding itself.
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efb416
My MOH just decided to go away for a few weeks a month before my wedding (it was originally planned for after, but was changed on a whim). It wouldn't be a problem except I only have one bridesmaid (her)! I didn't even find out through her, I found out through a mutual friend. If it were for work I'd understand, but it's for a vacation, and I won't be able to reach her until she's back, which is 2 weeks before my wedding. I think I've been pretty explicit that that would be when I want her around more, as I've tried to do a lot on my own up until now. The wedding is a few months away. I'm not sure what to do. I don't feel I can rely on her anymore.
efb416
My MOH just decided to go away for a few weeks a month before my wedding (it was originally planned for after, but was changed on a whim). It wouldn't be a problem except I only have one bridesmaid (her)! I didn't even find out through her, I found out through a mutual friend. If it were for work I'd understand, but it's for a vacation, and I won't be able to reach her until she's back, which is 2 weeks before my wedding. I think I've been pretty explicit that that would be when I want her around more, as I've tried to do a lot on my own up until now. The wedding is a few months away. I'm not sure what to do. I don't feel I can rely on her anymore.
mlashley
I would also like to mention that I have a WONDERFUL MOH!
mlashley
I was the MOH for my sisters wedding and my then boyfriend had cheated on my with one of her other bridesmaids (we broke up, but no one knew about the affair) and I was still very polite and kept my personal issues to myself all through the showers and parties, and the wedding, so if I can be nice to evil slut girl for my sisters wedding, anyone can deal with a difficult bridesmaid! lol Mlstrange, I think you have the right idea, you do your best, stay polite, but firm and just try not to let her antics get to you :)
Twittal04@yahoo.com
Wow it is 17 weeks out from our wedding and my MOH decided to tell me in a text message that she apologizes for not wanting to be in the wedding anymore! Serisouly a text message I think that type of thing warranted a phone call. Good God! BUT on the bright side I have the MOH I wanted in the first place and she has been fabulous this whole time. Bless her heart for putting up with my undecisiveness. Love you girl!